I become anxious thinking about large concepts if I do not separate them into bits or pieces of the whole. So it is with years.
Many people talk about their resolution (s) for the year, I cannot do that. If I do, I will exacerbate my breathing each day, as I will view each day as a failure to the whole of the year because if I fail one day, it is to a larger goal–the entire year! Therefore, I must take little slices of a concept, such as the need to decide how I will keep a consistent routine on things. Lets take a few of them.
Exercise. My greatest fault here is that I am inconsistent. If I take a calendar (and I did buy a beautiful desk calendar just for this purpose), I will have to fill in a time for each day I decide to exercise, how long, and in which way. So, I know that I have a tendency to gain weight easily because I sit writing all day. I also love to eat. Thus, the combination creates fat. Therefore, I must write in my calendar: 9am, until 9:45 am, of exercise M-Friday. The routine: quick step walk for 15 minutes, jumping jacks for 5 minutes, and then leg lifts for 5 minutes, then running in place for 10 minutes. Then rotate sit-ups, lunges, and squats for 10 minutes on different days. THAT is a carefully planned exercise plan. But I cannot say I will do it for the entire year. If I miss even one day, I will feel completely inadequate regarding such a large goal. A weekly goal is much more palatable. If I fail within the 5 days, I have a chance to readjust the time, and the quality of exercise, all the while not being consumed with 365 days of potential failure. Mind game, I know, but I am the only one playing, so it’s permissible.
I have grocery shopping, and I hate to do it. I never notice a problem with having no toilet paper, paper towels, toothpaste, etc., until it’s completely gone! Therefore, I must plan the one day per month in which I acquire the necessities, apart from the weekly food items. That means in one of the weeks within the month I will be going to the market or store(s) in a week, with two shopping lists, but the other weeks only one. I simply post in my calendar the best day for such an excursion, say: Thursdays each week, but for the monthly necessities, I buy them also on the last Thursday of the month.
Calling clients should always be marked on a calendar. Not because I won’t remember, though I won’t. But because I must make a note of when it was, and what the conversation was about, and mark a note as to anything I have to do to carry the next conversation with them further. Also, I can assess what it is I am doing well with my clients, and what it is I am doing poorly, by the notes on conversation pieces.
These things seem trivial, and many may say: “Don’t sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff,” good advice from the famous author and guru of the book so titled, the author Richard Carlson, Ph.D. However, one may be OVER simplifying Dr. Carlson’s meaning. It is true we should not panic and get overwhelmed by small things such as I have mentioned above. But it is not true we should ignore careful planning such as above-mentioned, because when we are over extended in some way or some day, or if some thing comes up that delays our plans and kick us off balance, we have already done “the small stuff,” while in the comfort of our own scheduled plans in our calendar, and during the unbothered period of time, that we never do get into a sweating position with the small stuff, as the big things run smoothly because the little things have already been accounted for and are planned carefully and executed automatically then.
So I have decided, and perhaps one may call this my New Year’s resolution, to keep a calendar filled for the first week each week, and be consistently keeping each week planned in advance. I will let you know how it turns out next week. Cheers!